FEATURED COLUMN by Britny Belskis: Unexpected circumstances can be opportunity

Hey Friends,
How do you handle unexpected circumstances in your life? Do you freak out? Do you let what happened sink into your thoughts? Are you waiting for it all to get better?
These questions have been on my mind the past few weeks.

The reason these questions have been on my mind is that I have been having some health issues that cropped up during the first week of classes and have continued since. I have had scan after scan, and I’m still waiting to see what is going on. Right now, the hardest part is waiting to see if I need surgery.
Here are some ways that I’m dealing with this unexpected circumstance, which I hope may help you.
For my own well-being, I want to make sure I’m healthy, which means I must make sure that I’m in the right state of mind to cope with this circumstance in a healthy way. Journaling what I’m feeling gets all of my fears on paper. For instance, I write down the root cause of what is going on, then the effects of the root and then write the solution. It’s like the inventory sheet that we talked about a couple months back, if you remember that.
Another item that helps me is having a person to talk with about what is going on in my life. I know that you’re saying, “I already have friends that I tell everything to.” I, too, am one to say that I have people in my life that I can tell eve thing to, but what I’m talking about is a sponsor, therapist or life coach.
I’m a big advocate for having healthy mental health. Having these kinds of people in your life can help you process the uncertain parts of your life. To help me process unexpected things in my life, I have a mentor who I met five years ago and talk to on a regular basis to help me be a healthier Britny.
Looking at the positive parts of unexpected circumstances can help you move forward in your life. If you’re anything like me, you get bogged down with what is going on and it is hard to see the positive in the moment. I try to look for the brighter side of the circumstance.
For instance, as I’ve been going through this life change with this little health issue, I have decided to look at it as getting healthy. If you can find two or three positive things about what’s going on, it will get you your rough circumstances as well.
I’m so thankful to be able to write this article and walk alongside each one of you on this journey in our lives. I want you to know that you are not alone in this, and know that there is someone in your corner cheering you on.
I’m always here to guide you through the tough times, until next month friends.
Stay tuned!