CATCHING HEALTH: Six secrets to keeping your New Year’s resolutions

By Dianne Atwood

If you’re anything like me and about 92 percent of the rest of the population in this country, you do a lousy job of sticking to your New Year’s resolutions — even if you make only one.

That’s why I usually don’t make resolutions. Still, at the beginning of every year, I think about starting fresh, trying something new, or doing something a different way.

If I decide to move ahead on something, I’m reluctant to call it a resolution. Somehow, it makes me feel as if I’m setting myself up for failure. (Secret 6 strikes a chord). If you’re still on the fence about making a resolution or looking for a vote of confidence, I scoured the Internet and found some helpful tips for you an dme.

THE SIX SECRETS
1. Write down or say out loud what you want to change about your life.

This tip is the first in a series of steps recommended by neuroscientist and author Nicole Gravagna. She was responding to a question posted on Quora: “Are there good rules of thumb as to what makes a good new year’s resolution?”

Gravagna says, “To make significant changes in your life, you are going to have to get to the bottom of what you really mean when you say you want to get fit, spend more time with your family, or get a better job. What do those things mean to you?”

2. Share your goals with someone who cares and believes in you.

I came up with this tip after reading a post by Bangor Daily News blogger Jim LaPierre, a mental health therapist and addictions counselor and the executive director of Higher Ground Services in Brewer. LaPierre says people fail at keeping their resolutions because they try to do it alone.

“Anyone in addiction recovery can tell you that undertaking significant life changes without accountability, support and encouragement is just this side of masochistic,” he says.

You can read his entire post on his blog — “Recovery Rocks: How to make your resolutions attainable and sustainable.”

3. Start small.

This tip comes from the American Psychological Society. “Make resolutions that you think you can keep. If, for example, your aim is to exercise more frequently, schedule three or four days a week at the gym instead of seven. If you would like to eat healthier, try replacing dessert with something else you enjoy, like fruit or yogurt, instead of seeing your diet as a form of punishment.”

4. Come up with environmental cues that will trigger your desired new behavior.

In a Forbes article, Jeena Cho interviewed Professor Clayton R. Cook, Ph.D., of the Department of Educational Psychology and College of Education and Human Development at the University of Minnesota. Here’s an excerpt:

“Behavior-environmental cue relationships are critical to habit formation. Cook uses breaking the habit of nail biting to illustrate how to create a new behavior.

* If you want to give up biting your nails, first you need to become aware of when you’re prone to biting your nails.
* Embed cues during those times when you’re likely to bite your nails.
* Set up cues that signal or trigger an alternative competing behavior — that is, the new habit you’re trying to form. For example, if you’re prone to biting your nails while driving, tape a question near the steering wheel that says, “Do you know what’s under your fingernails?” This is your cue to, for example, begin chewing gum (alternative competing behavior). Read more in the original article “The Science Behind Making New Year’s Resolutions That You’ll Keep.”

5. Make your goal specific.

Last year, Jen Boggs had one specific goal. She resolved to send someone a postcard every single day. While she missed a few days here and there, in the end, she sent 365 cards. She said it was a wonderful experience.

“It felt really good to send positive things to people I loved, people I liked, and people I didn’t know very well. Sometimes I sent a quote or a poem, but I often wrote about something I appreciated or admired about the person,” she said.

One reason Boggs was able to keep her resolution was that, when she missed a day, she didn’t beat herself up about it or give up her project altogether. She allowed herself some flexibility. Which leads me to secret 6.

6. Can’t keep your New Year’s resolutions? Try being kind to yourself.

In an article she wrote for “The Conversation,” Kristin Neff, associate professor of educational psychology, University of Texas at Austin, said “I would argue the problem isn’t that we try and we fail. The problem is how we treat ourselves when we fail. I study self-compassion, and my research and that of others shows how we relate to personal failure — with kindness or harsh self-judgment — is incredibly important for building resilience. From early childhood, we are taught how we must succeed at all costs. What most of us aren’t taught is how to fail successfully so we can change and grow. One of the best ways to deal with failure is to have self-compassion.”

So … as we move into 2018, maybe instead of expecting to fail at our resolutions (or anything) we should believe in ourselves, and if we falter — which we will — be kinder to ourselves.

If you made any, what are your resolutions this year? Will you use any of these tips? Do you have some of your own to share?

For many years, Diane Atwood was the health reporter on WCSH6. Now she is a blogger and podcaster at Catching Health with Diane Atwood.